I want to create a page for tips and tricks that can be used in practice taking into consideration the latest studies and my private practice experience altogheter. As they may help you find potential solutions and approaches to life or business situations. A sort of “book of notes” that can be a usefull “mini guide of psychological navigation”

The first thing that pops up into my mind from my therapeutical private practice, is that when the patient in front of me, being in his full mental capacity, but just distressed, had an intense gut feeling that something is happening in the private life of it’s couple, he or she was right. Our internal radar tells us that things are not as they were before, we do not know why, we don’t know what it is, but we know that there is something changed.

Tips & Tricks – to find out more, try to ask open ended questions, non-intrusive, non-agressive to collect information, and better undertand which is the perceived change (what behaviour, action etc.) And then we can analyze it togheter. If you are afraid of a particular approach, do not hesitate to contact me and we could find optimum communication solutions for the couple.

• I FEEL THAT SOMEHTING IS DIFFERENT: Instead of letting my thought and fears take the better of me and to push me to a cognitive error, leave yourself a bit of space and time to understand where and when does this different feeling kicks in .

• try to see what changed on the outside Which are the elements that are disonant compared with the past period of time. Are there things that changed on the outside, income level, job pressure, kids, debt, change of a line manager, new co-worker, new entourage.

• The relevant other behaviour has changed: What changed?, try to identify the elements that you do not recognize anymore, or don’t fit with your former knowledge. Time spent togheter (quantity, quality, intensity), communication (same)

• ASK QUESTIONS: open ended questions, in a calm voice, that doesn’t demand an answer and doesn’t look like an interrogation. If your questions are warm hearted the answers will be more warm hearted too. Try to be non-intrusive, be gently human. As we usually mirror the other person behaviour. Simple, open communication, without prejudice represents a healing tool by itself.